Small Lanes Lead to Big Destinations

“Remember to dream big, think long-term, underachieve on a daily basis, and take baby steps. That is the key to long-term success.”—Robert Kiyosaki 

Great things rarely start big.

In most, if not all cases, big things start small. The fattest person or the strongest body builder was once a tiny infant. The biggest elephant in the forest was once a small cub. And the largest whale in the ocean was once a small calf. 

Even outside the natural world of biology, the same principle applies. The biggest and the most popular companies in the world—like Apple, Microsoft, Toyota — were all started small by one, unknown individual.

Concisely, in the physical world of creation, massive entities start small and grow steadily.

However, in today’s world of overnight celebrities, many people want to go big from the very beginning, and as a result get nowhere because of this misguided notion. They fail to understand the old age truism that the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step—a single, small step.

We easily forget that many of the great things that we enjoy today started as tiny things. Afterwards, those tiny things went through a long process of growth and evolution to get to their current size and status. 

When we understand this truth, we gain the power to make anything possible, which is what the most effective people know.

The Secret of the Most Effective People

In her book, ‘Small Move, Big Change,’ Caroline Arnold demonstrates the power of baby steps towards the realization of big goals, whether it is building a business, running for office or starting a foundation for charity. 

In the book, she explains that we can’t become what we wish unless we start doing something to make it happen. That is, if we want to be an entrepreneur, we need to actually start doing something in that direction, no matter how small.

The main idea in the book is the secret of giants, the priceless few who have overcome their resistance to action. She calls it: ‘micro-resolutions.’ 

Micro-resolutions are mini goals. Goals that are small enough to make procrastination become less of an issue for anyone.  

For example:

If you are planning to start an online business, instead dreaming about how you are going to dominate the cyberspace, think of one small action you can take right now, like reading an article written by an expert on the subject in focus. 

And after learning what you need to know to get started, think of one more action you can take right now towards that vision, like calling a programmer to design a website for you. And so on and so forth. 

Small but meaningful move, one step at a time, this is the secret of growth in nature, in business and in life. It is the secret of the most effective people in the world.

Chris Gardner, the author of 'Start Where You Are,' challenges you now to join their rank in your own life by embracing the principle of steady progress through consistent tiny actions. He writes: 

“Walk that walk and go forward all the time. Don't just talk that talk, walk it and go forward. Also, the walk didn't have to be long strides; baby steps counted too. Go forward.”

Certainly, big vision is necessary for great success. However taking small steps constantly, in sequential order is how effective people make phenomenal success happen. Though, these tiny steps may not seem to make a big difference at the moment yet, they eventually accumulate to into a giant outcome.

Whatever it is you imagine, never forget that small beginning and unremitting small steps are the royal road to lasting success.

Help Others with Compassion and Help Yourself with Self-Compassion

“A tree lives on its roots. If you change the root, you change the tree. Culture lives in human beings. If you change the human heart the culture will follow.”—Jane Hirshfield

Compassion is a virtue that springs from a merciful heart. 

And it is defined in the dictionary as having feelings of sympathy for the suffering of others and then having a genuine desire to help in lessening or eradicating that suffering.  

It is a moral quality of mercy and benevolence.

This definition is made more visceral by the following thoughts from the American social thinker, Henri Nouwen as he elucidates further on the force of compassion:

“Compassion asks us to go where it hurts, to enter into the places of pain, challenges us to cry out with those in misery, to mourn with those who are lonely, (and) to weep with those in tears.” 

From the foregoing, it is clear that true compassion is never passive. True compassion compels us to stand up for the weak, even when we are in need of help ourselves. The compassionate heart feels with empathy and then bears the burden of easing the sufferer’s pains with cheerful deeds of altruism. 

It is that lofty virtue which drove a high-earning actress away from the glitter and glamour of show business into the humble life of humanitarian service. 

Audrey Hepburn was the performer in question. She was a classic example of mercy and compassion!

Audrey gave the rest of her life to serve the needs of many helpless people in the war torn regions of Africa and Asia, voluntarily and vigorously. In the next couple of words, she revealed the motive behind her noble transition. 

She said: “Nothing is more important than empathy for another human being's suffering: not a career, not wealth, not intelligence, certainly not status. We have to feel for one another if we're going to survive with dignity.”

If you disagree with her assertion, then read what one of the greatest thinkers of the medieval period had to say about this. Saadi Shirazi, the author of the powerful book, ‘Rose Garden’ wrote as follows:

“The sons of Adam are limbs of each other, having been created of one essence. When the calamity of time affects one limb, the other limbs cannot remain at rest. If you have no sympathy for the troubles of others, you are unworthy to be called by the name of a human.”

In the meantime, let’s turn this feeling of mercy towards ourselves….

How Self-Compassion Can Make You Better

Sometimes, we are our own worst enemies, especially when we have made a few mistakes. During those tough times, we can easily strike out and cripple our own progress when positive thinking will serve us the best.

And researches show that harsh self-criticism is one of the causes of blockages in creative breakthroughs and thus, less than optimal productivity. Therefore, it is smart to be compassionate with yourself whenever you feel unhappy because you have done less than your best.  Doing this will help you to bounce back quite quickly. 

To support this argument, David Desteno, a fellow of the Association for Psychological Science writes in his book—Emotional Success—that: “When students were encouraged to be compassionate with themselves, after performing poorly on a test, they subsequently worked 30% harder.” 

You see, self-compassion proves to be as helpful to us as compassion is helpful to others in times of trouble. 

We should never forget that we are human, and no human being is awesome all the time. Therefore, we need to understand that it is not a crime to underperform every now and then. 

In this regards, the iconic servant leader—Audrey Hepburn— still has something valuable to teach us. She said: “As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one (is) for helping yourself, the other (is) for helping others.”

So, don’t run yourself down, when you hit a difficult wall, but lend yourself a helping hand and lift yourself up from every slump.

Instead of saying: “I am a complete failure,” which will attract a host of other negative emotions to keep you stuck in a hole. You should say: “For champions, everything is a learning experience, and I will try to do better next time.” 

The former can turn the bad into something far worse, but the later will likely make the most of the bad. This is how self-compassion can help you get better.

Compassion towards Others Still Benefits Us

Even though compassion is driven by the urge to help others, we are somehow helping ourselves in the process. Psychology experts have discovered that those who willingly help others can enjoy higher level of mental wellness than those cold hearts that sincerely care for no one but themselves. 

If we think about it in our own experience, we will realize how true that is. When we give hope to someone in a hopeless situation, we are likely to discover better insights on how to deal with our own problems. As the Eastern saying goes: "Be merciful to those on earth and the One in Heaven will have mercy on you.”

To put this knowledge into practice, l want to ask myself the following questions, at the beginning of each day: 

Will I bring a smile to someone's face today? 

Will I refuse to get angry today? 

Will I choose to forgive my enemies today? 

Will I choose to help the needy today?

Will I choose to let go of perfectionism today?

Live your life with the conscious awareness that, in a world filled with hatred and cruelty, you can make one more person feel better through your compassion; likewise, you can also make yourself become a little bit better with the right application of self-compassion. 

Finally, the Persian poet, Rumi brings the whole thing into a beautiful end for us with these wonderful words: “The only lasting beauty is the beauty of the heart.” And the beauty of the heart—as we have seen— is demonstrated by the deeds of love which we choose to do for others and also to our own ourselves.

Learn Something from the Obsession of One Man: Bill Bradley

“Intuition is really a sudden immersion of the soul into the universal current of life.”—Paulo Coelho

A consuming interest is the wellspring of mastery and genius. It is the attribute responsible for turning an unknown man—Bill Bradley— into one of the best in history at his game: the game of basketball. 

Bradley was the definition of obsession. He was always fixated on getting better at his craft. And as a result he was rewarded in many great ways including winning an Olympic gold medal in 1964.

However, Bradley started his game on a low tone; he lacked many essential tactics of the game at the beginning of his journey. But with dogged determination, he made up for every skill he was deficient in. 

All by himself, he developed an intensive training routine that involved hours and hours of practice in the gym—every blessed day.  He earned his glory with grit and focus like the German born theoretical physicist, Albert Einstein who said:  “I know quite certainly that I myself have no special talent; curiosity, obsession and dogged endurance, combined with self-criticism, have brought me to my ideas.” 

Bradley’s self-directed training went far beyond the gym. He would continue his training at home. He would drill over and over again to improve the quality of his act. He created a chance to practice any where he found himself: in the gym, at home and even when he was on vacation with his family.  

He stuck to this pattern until he became so good that not only his fans but also his critics would marvel at his remarkable display of skill, style and balance.  He is now one of only two players with the rare honour of winning an NBA championship, an Olympic gold medal and Euro League title. 

Read on to learn the main point of today’s writing and how it applies to you.

Get the Point and Use It.

The obvious point of this article is that achieving greatness has less to do with being a natural but more to do with the level of one’s dedication and discipline. This is the blessing our Creator has bestowed on all of us. So we can choose any path that we want and commit to improvement in that direction.

Bill Bradley became what he became only by taking full responsibility—despite the odds— for his mastery. He used the power of immersion to develop and to unleash all the amazing skills he had.  

His mantra was:  "When you're not practicing, someone somewhere is."

This is what transformed him into one of the best at his game.  And when we commit to our own path with the same amount of passion, we can achieve something far greater. Therefore, to become a star in our own game, all we need to do is: focus on getting better, making progress, and constantly working on ourselves, each day. 

On this, the social entrepreneur and author of ‘the Blue Sweater,’ Jacqueline Novogratz counsels us as follows: “May each of you live lives of immersion. “Though she warns us too that it, “…won't necessarily be easy,” yet she assures us it is totally worth it. It is better to be immersed in something meaningful than to live untouched.

Beginning today, let’s make a decision to live the rest of our lives with purpose and passion for a good cause that is far greater than ourselves, our jobs and our careers for the betterment of mankind as a whole.

Our Paradigm is a Function of Our Habits

“As human beings, our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake the world – that is the myth of the atomic age – as in being able to remake ourselves.” ― Mahatma Gandhi

Many of us want to get better at something. Most of us desire to have more of something.  And none of us is absolutely perfect in everything. Thus, no matter the degree of our achievements, there is always room for anyone to improve.

Therefore, all of us have a job to do to make our results better than they now are. And every day, we have a fresh opportunity to be, to have and to do just that.

In this direction, let’s take the words of the author of ‘The ABC of Success,’ Bob Proctor very close to our hearts. He says, “To change our results, paradigm is all we need to change.”

You may ask, ‘What is a paradigm?’ 

According to Bob Proctor, “Paradigm is simply a multitude of habits.” He came to this meaning after intensive study of the subject. And the iconic Benjamin Franklin explains further in mathematical terms. He said: "Your net worth to the world is usually determined by what remains after your bad habits are subtracted from your good ones."

In other words, people of high positive net worth in personal habit equation are operating with a strong paradigm while people of low positive net worth in personal habit equation are operating with a weak paradigm. 

But people of low negative net worth in personal habit equation are operating with a very weak (or bad) paradigm but those with a high negative net worth in personal habit equation are the dregs of the society.

In addition, Bob Proctor emphasizes that to ignore the power of paradigm in influencing our judgments is to put our entire future at risk. By this, he means: whether we like it or not weak paradigm will continue to produce poor results until it is consciously altered and strong paradigm will continue to produce pleasant result until it is also changed. So we must do our best to make and keep our paradigm strong and wholesome.

In all cases, our paradigm is what defines our reality; it is what drives our results.

For those of us in need of better results in any aspects of our lives, we only need to alter some of our weak habits to fortify our paradigm. And the way to it is to purposefully recondition ourselves for good by getting out of our own way, by adopting the right habits; the fine habits that can help us with what we truly want to have.

As the author of ‘Cosmic Ordering Guide,’ Stephen Richards asserts, “You are essentially who you create yourself to be, and all that occurs in your life is the result of your own making.”  The great gift from the Creator is that we have the privilege of choice as human beings to remake ourselves at any moment in time. This why Ben Franklin equally says “life is plastic” and within each of us is the power to mould ourselves to the desirable form that we yearn.

Making this change is perhaps the best use of our precious personal choice as the as Chinese philosopher, Confucius once declared: “He who conquers himself is the mightiest warrior.”

To conclude, I have a question for you: 

What one limiting habit will you decide to break today to further strengthen the positive force of your own paradigm? 

Please do something about that because it is the best way to become a stronger version of yourself as Ben Franklin answered when he was asked:  “Who is strong?” He replied: “He that can conquer his bad habits.”