“The reputation you have with
yourself - your self-esteem - is the single most important factor for a
fulfilling life.”—Nathaniel Branden
If you lack
confidence and you have been running yourself down for a while, it is time to
overturn the tide.
Learn and
apply the tip to becoming more confident and see what happens in your life.
Confidence
is the inner believe in your ability to win out of anything you are confronted
with. This core faith can come from the fact that you have done very well
before in handling something similar—or something equally challenging.
Confidence
is the knowing that if we could manage to succeed at one time before, we can
invariably try and succeed again, this time, as James Allen writes in his
classic book, ‘As a Man Thinketh’ that:
“The will to
do springs from the knowledge that we can do.”
We earn
confidence through action. Regular action, however small is a great builder of
self-esteem. Therefore, the secret to earning confidence is to do and succeed
at something first. And the way to guarantee that foundational success is to cut
our coat according to our size.
We can only
win when we believe we will win; we can’t achieve what we don’t truly believe
we can accomplish. So to be sure of success, set a goal that is fairly easy for
you to reach, reach it, and then repeat the process over and over again,
increasing the scope of your dare, a little bit, each time. And as you do, your
confidence will grow.
When you act
the part, you become the part. Success builds confidence and confidence in turn
builds success. This powerful feedback loop is what great people understand and
employ to rise above the commonplace.
And Mark
Victor Hansen, the author of ‘the Chicken Soup for the Soul,’ inspires you to
get in the game when he writes: “Get
started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more
and more skilled, more and more self-confident.”
Finally,
what one area do you think you can direct your effort to start improving your
confidence, going forward? This is after all, the bottom line of your search.
